Raised without those things, they fell right into the Manosphere trap of thinking "Alphas" exist (grandiose self-image) and that the worst thing to be is a "Beta" (devalued self-image).
That split is purely purely narcissistic and based on insecurity and a poor self-image. Funny that in history not only was the word "Alpha" never used to describe men, the concept didn't even exist.
In the past a man was someone who was a protector and provider (the so-called Beta) yet courageous/confident (the so-called Alpha). A whole man was both.
Of course people tell me, "That's not what an Alpha/Beta is, it's this, blah, blah, blah." They can never figure what the concepts are, because each believer makes up his own definitions. They don't believe that, either. And they defend their beliefs with every rationalization and excuse in the book.
But the ones I listed are close enough. Besides, I repeat, what the definitions are is narcissistic, being based on that split. And the split is based on a weak, insecure, grandiose "Alpha" self-image covering up an even weaker, devalued "Beta" self-image. The one that was created by those weak/nonexistent fathers, clueless incompetent mothers, and worthless schools.
The concepts of confidence/courage were covered thousands of years ago with the Four Cardinal Virtues: confidence/courage, prudence, justice, and self-control. And if you lack one of them, you lack all of them.
You cannot have courage/confidence without prudence (choosing the right path out of many), justice (giving each his due) and self-control (not being impulsive). I have seen the truth of this without exception in my life.
Because young men are lacking so much courage/confidence today (many don't even look at women anymore, or approach them), women prefer whatever confident men there are. And men get confused about that too, coming up with that weird concept that women prefer jerks and those of the Dark Triad (I was raised with such guys, have two relatives in prison, and none of them are popular with women). The only reason guys believe this nonsense is because they read it in the Manosphere, not because of personal experience.
What it's coming down to is confidence. It's hard to develop it with those aforementioned lacks of fathers, dipshit mothers and schools and the media, and no mentors. You can't get those things from mommy, no matter what form she takes.
And you sure aren't going to get what you need with that narcissistic Alpha/Beta split.