I realized years later she must have felt shame and humiliation because of her looks and the fact she was ignored by all the boys at school. People such as that are exceptionally susceptible to being ridiculed.
Then I wrote just about ten years later I knew a beautiful woman who was asked out by one weekend by seven guys. The first ostracized; the second had more guys than she knew what to do with. And all because of their looks.
That wasn't the only thing I encountered in that studio apartment having to with women and their looks.
One night I was in another girl's room listening to records (this was decades before CDs).
This woman was very attractive.
She told me that when she was 12 years old she had been ostracized by the kids in school. She showed me her picture from seventh grade. She was pudgy and wore glasses that sat crooked on her face.
Over the summer she lost all the extra weight and got contacts. When she went back to school in the fall all the kids who had ignored and ostracized her now wanted to be her friend, because she had been one of those Ugly Ducklings that turned into a Swan.
No thanks, she told me.
She had been shamed and humiliated and now she was the center of attention. The experience changed her permanently.
She told me ever since then she had never been attracted to what most women considered good-looking guys.
She said she was attracted to men who looked like Peter Noone.
"Who's Peter Noone?" I asked.
The lead singer for Herman and the Hermits, she told me.
Peter Noone was popular about the time she was born. How it happened she found him attractive I have no idea.
But I do know about a year after I graduated I saw her at a PR function in a town about 50 miles away. She was with her new husband, who - you guessed it - looked like Peter Noone, except about five inches taller.
I have thought about this for a long time. When people have an unwanted self bestowed on them by others they generally feel shame and humiliation.
Of course they try to replace those feeling of shame and humiliation with pride. Kathy did it by ignoring all the good-looking guys and going her own way. It's true - living well really is the best revenge. And Kathy got her revenge.
I also mentioned before I've seen a lot more women try to shame and humiliate men, including men they didn't know and had never met before, than men who try to humiliate women.
I've only seen one guy try to humiliate a women, and that was a black guy who abused in public a yellow-skinned mulatto women in who only dated white guys and had a little girl who passed for white. I'm sure he was driven insane by the fact she would never have anything to do with his ugly self (this woman also made more that one comment about my blue eyes - and the father of the child had blue eyes).
The difference between men and women is that when men feel shame and humiliation they often try to replace those feelings with pride by violence.
The Manosphere exists because of the abuse of men by women, specifically women infected by feminist ideas.
It tries to build men's self-esteem by telling them women are inferior, i.e. loveless hypergamous whores, things only interested in "cash and prizes," so get revenge on them by using them as "plates" to be spun. Don’t be one of those grotesque Betas or Gammas!
Also be a "Dark Triad Alpha," too. Bad advice all around. Very bad advice.
Feminism tries to bestow an unwanted, shamed, humiliated self on men. So, of course, these men are seeking revenge.
If feminism had never existed there would be no Manosphere.