"Malignant narcissism has been described as 'an extreme form of antisocial personality disorder combined with narcissistic elements that is manifested in a person who is pathologically grandiose, lacking in conscience and behavioral regulation, and with characteristic demonstrations of joyful cruelty and sadism.'"
I've known several single mothers, both middle-class and lower-class. All of them were child abusers, even though they did not know it.
One of them, who was middle-class, decided to have a child when in her early '30s. She gave the boy her last name, treated him like a friend instead of a son, and as soon as he graduated high school, she moved out of state and deserted him. Once her "boyfriend" hit her (gee, I wonder why) and she called her son at 2am from out of state to pour her heart out to him, treating him like some emotional tampon.
And she's one of the good ones. Her boy is merely okay, and he has problems maintaining relationships with women. No surprise there.
The no-class ones tend to hit their kids at two years old, really thinking the kid going to learn to behave from it. They'll learn, all right, but nothing good.
In the past, a boy raised without a father and only by his mother was called a bastard. A bastard means two things: a fatherless boy and a cruel, heartless man. These days, what would be called a sociopath/psychopath. Anti-Social Personality Disorder.
Again, what does history say produces these men? A single mother and no father. (For that matter, when there are too many women in a field, it automatically becomes anti-male and produces hostile men. Think the schools.)
Want is see a clear example of what is produced with single mothers and no fathers? Look at the psychopathic behavior among young black males. That's our future.
I've read some articles about the disturbing increase of sociopaths/psychopaths. The clueless are trying to stuff it into their Evo-Psych Box (which isn't a science and is closer to a joke.)
Their explanation? It's increasing because women like "bad boys," so men are becoming psychopaths to get women. That's pretty pathetic, really, because the supporters of this hypothesis don't even know what a psychopath is. Becoming a psychopath often comes from the way you're treated at less than three months old.
A psychopath is someone who has no conscience and is incapable of love. They cannot be cured. Their conscience has been destroyed. The worst ones - the violent ones - are the serial killers, who get sexual gratification out of torturing, murdering, mutilating, cannibalism, necrophilia.
The Greeks understood this people better than most people today, which is why in their definition of Hubris, there was often a sexual aspect to it.
Psychopaths are only interested in power over others. As Carl Jung wrote, you can have power or you can have love. You can't have both.
A psychopath is also sometime who has a "grandiose" self covering up a "devalued" self. That's where the child abuse/single/mothers/no fathers comes in. They have that insecure, easily humiliated "devalued" self which they cover up with their "grandiose" self.
Anyone who does not know these things has no business whatsoever talking about psychopaths/sociopaths. Anyone who does not know who Otto Kernberg and Heinz Kohut are (or Melanie Klein, for that matter), has no business talking about these things.
A psychopath is someone who has never grown up. Or as Thomas Hobbes said, "The evil man is the child grown strong." They are eternally children, without conscience, without love, full of hate and rage. And they are all malignant.
"What you're seeing is how a civilization commits suicide." - Camille Paglia
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You make an interesting point. Are the men who get these women pregnant and refuse to contribute to the children's lives also child abusers?
Yes, they certainly are.
Would not society's extension of adolescence be a contributing factor? The post does after all define psychopaths as adult children who haven't grown up. So by default, at least two generations (x, millennial) are all psychopaths to some extent or other.
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