Thursday, June 6, 2013

The Seductive and/or Destroying Single Mother

"The process of individuation is the process of the self-sense, the 'conscious' mind, becoming aware of the psyche's 'unconscious' contents." - Ray Harris

No society has ever approved of single mothers. Or rather, no society that approves of (in the case of the deluded, cheers) single mothers has ever survived. That means ours, with its tacit acceptance of single mothers, isn't going to survive. It'll change. No one know what we'll suffer when it changes.

In the not-so-distant past, a pregnant single woman was forced to give her child away. Why? Single mothers were not, and are not, economically viable. Even today they're still dependent on men, only these days they marry the State instead of the father. Although they sometimes say they are "strong and independent," which really means, "I don't have a clue."

Worse, children without fathers have a decided tendency to have some significant problems.

I understand all the studies showing there is no good whatever for children raised by single mothers. I also know some mythology, and that is just as important as scientific studies. The mythos is just as valid as the logos.

Mythology has described the bad aspects of women in two ways: seductive and destroying. The Hindu deity Kali is close to a perfect example of the seductive, destroying woman. In the West, Eve seduced the weakling Adam, and destroyed both him and her. Pandora, with her "seductive gifts," who loosed every evil onto the world.

The seductive/destroying mother is often called the Terrible Mother, and in myth she is usually associated with ritual sacrifice linked to fertility rites. That's why feminism tries to sacrifice men, so women can be "reborn."

Philip Wylie wrote a book, Generation of Vipers, and came up with what he described as "Momism." What two kinds of mothers did he describe? The destructive ones and the destroying ones. The worst ones embodied both evils.

The modern example I use is the Borg Queen from Star Trek. She is seductive and she is destroying, although she disguises what she is with the comment, "Why do you resist us? We only wish to improve the quality of your lives."

As best as I can remember, the first time I ran across the seductive and destroying woman/mother (although I didn't know it at the time, being 11) was the Witch-Woman Lur, in A. Merritt's novel, Dwellers in the Mirage. The hero had to kill her to escape from her.

Another novel? She, by H. Rider Haggard (Ayesha was called She-Who-Must-Be-0beyed).

Movies? Born on the Fourth of July, in which the combination of a destroying (and in some degree seductive) mother, along with a weak father, put the son in a wheelchair for the rest of his life.

Boogie Nights, in which again, a combination of a destroying mother and a weak father created a drug-addict porn-star son.

Or how about Body Heat, in which a weak man ends up spending his life in prison after falling for a seductive, destroying woman? That movie reminds me of the novel and movie, Double Indemnity, in which a weak but basically decent man, loses his life after getting involved with a seductive, destroying woman.

Over and over I have encountered the seductive/destroying woman in stories and myth. Saki's short story, Sredni Vastar, in which a little boy prays for the animal he worships (as a cruel, merciless god, as all revenge is) to kill his older female cousin, who is slowly torturing him to death...and the animal obliges.

Rudyard Kipling's autobiographical Baa, Baa, Black Sheep, in which he was tortured by a cruel, sadistic elderly caregiver to the point he tried to kill her, then himself. The only thing missing from this close-to-perfect story is her doting on a boatload of cats. (The last line of the story reads, "...when young lips have drunk deep of the bitter waters of Hate, Suspicion, and Despair, all the Love in the world will not wholly take away that knowledge; though it may turn darkened eyes for a while to the light, and teach Faith where no Faith was.")

In all of these cases, there was not a father around. Conclusion? With no father around, a noticeable number of women will become seductive and destructive mothers. They won't know what they and will rationalize their behavior ("Why do you resist us? We only wish to improve the quality of your lives."

I knew a man whose father died when he was 12. His mother began to abuse him, until when he was 16 he grabbed her hands to stop her from hitting him. After that she never touched him again. He died at 45 of alcoholism. That is just one story out of many. Millions, actually.

Some of these boys raised without fathers seem to be competent at first, because they are thrown on their own so fast, and try to be men without knowing how. I know one, whose mother decided to leave the state and throw him on his own at 18, who seemed to have it all together until he cracked up when he was 20. For one thing, he shattered one of his molars from grinding his teeth.

His mother had been more seductive than anything else. She considered her son to be her friend, not her son, and once called him at 2 am from over a thousand miles away, to complain that her new boyfriend hit her. You don't do things like that to your children.

What myth is invariably telling us is that boys raised without fathers, and by seductive, destroying mothers, will almost always have their lives damaged or destroyed. These boys are being humiliated...and humiliation leads to revenge. Sometimes, self-destruction.

All violence, to the violent, is an attempt to achieve justice, no matter how warped it is, since to them revenge is justice. All violence is in fact revenge, an attempt to replace feelings of humiliation with feelings of pride - self-respect, self-love, self-esteem.

The Mansophere, which is a reaction to destroying/seductive feminism, attempts to replace the humiliation of men with pride by engaging in the revenge of denigrating women as "hypergamous" (sic), gold-digging, rationalizing, loveless whores who are only interested in "Apha Fux and Beta Bux." Those beliefs are not going to work. You cannot counteract the Terrible Mother with the Terrible Father. Such beliefs will poison a man's soul.

If you want to see a myth that explains the problem, look at the story of the Garden of Eden. Adam blames Eve and Eve blames the serpent, which is a symbol of envy and hate. When someone puts down someone brutally, it is based on envy and hate...a desire to get revenge on that person and to replace humiliation with pride. Which is why Cain murdered Abel.

By the way, the word "bastard" means a cruel, heartless man...and a fatherless boy.

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