The One Evil Man I've Met

"If evil people cannot be defined by the illegality of their deeds or the magnitude of their sins, then how are we to define them? The answer is by the consistency of their sins. While usually subtle, their destructiveness is remarkably consistent. This is because those who have 'crossed over the line' are characterized by their absolute refusal to tolerate the sense of their own sinfulness." - M. Scott Peck

I've met only one evil man. I used to work for him for two years. I felt like going over his desk and attacking him, or getting up and walking out. He was truly repulsive. I couldn't stand being in his presence. Fortunately I only had to see him once a week.

I once told a woman I worked with how I felt about him, and she said she felt the same way. Everyone felt the same way about him. Another man I worked with referred to him as "a bad man."

He never broke the law. He was incompetent and did bad things, such as cheating on his (plain) wife with a woman he had hired (he was caught on company property having sex with her, which, along with several other things, led to his being transferred out of state. It only took about five years).

He was also a coward, disloyal and a backstabber.

Normal people are repulsed by such people, not attracted to them. M. Scott Peck, the late psychiatrist, once wrote a book, The People of the Lie, about those who met who were evil and utterly repulsive. He found normal people were always repulsed by them.

Those in the Manosphere who believe women are attracted to evil men (which in their minds means the Dark Triad) have never met someone evil.

Evil people don't necessarily kill people or are criminals. I've met murderers and they weren't evil, just children in adults's bodies.

Most of the criminals I've met weren't evil, either...just big, stupid, destructive children.

There are some women who are attracted to evil men. They are hybristophiacs and it's a recognized psychiatric disorder (hybristophilia "is a paraphilia in which sexual arousal, facilitation, and attainment of orgasm are responsive to and contingent upon being with a partner known to have committed an outrage, cheating, lying, known infidelities or crime, such as rape, murder, or armed robbery"). I know a woman who is one, and she hates herself for it. These are the women who write serial killers, and again, it's a vanishingly small minority of very sick women.

Those who promote the Dark Triad (their version of "evil") - the "Roissys" and the "Vox Days" - are either liars or naive. They've had no experience with it, just their fantasies.

Some of the more naive pretend hybristophia is normal for woman and that a man should pretend to be narcissistic or evil to attract these women. What sort of lunacy is that?

Pretending to be evil or pretending you have the Dark Triad...well, you're courting some pretty bad problems there.

I have known men who beat women, and have since I was 17. The women who tolerate it are not right in their heads and mostly seem to think it's their fault. "He really loves me...I just made him mad." The men were narcissistic or borderlines or psychopaths...never normal.

Others in that situation get divorced but fast, and I've seen that, too.

What mostly happens in those circumstances is that it's two idiots fighting, and the bigger and stronger idiot wins.

Decades ago, when I lived at my parent's house, I came home and found a female relative sitting on the couch with two black eyes. She had attacked her husband (she had beat him several times with a pillow when he was sick with the flu in bed) and got punched twice for it (this reminded me of an old joke: "What do you tell a woman with two black eyes?" "Nothing - she's already been told twice"). I was completely unsympathetic to her.

Not surprisingly, they got divorced, and their home life was a catastrophe.

People who think there is any good to "evil" or the Dark Triad are innocent of what they truly are.