The ideas in our heads are not reality, but instead are concepts we impose on reality. "The map is not the terrain," as that oh-so-accurate saying tells us.
The better those mental concepts explain reality, the closer they are to reality. But they are never reality itself.
If you want to use the concept of narcissism, the "alpha" is the grandiose self, and the "beta" is the devalued self. This accounts for the delusions about how women "hate betas," which they don't.
It also means the biggest fear of self-proclaimed "alphas" is their fear of being a "beta wimp," which is why they project their fears and anxieties onto the "beta" (this can be considered Jung's Shadow - the rejected part of the self).
None of them understand this, of course.
There are other ways to look at this, but they all lead to the same conclusion.
There is a system of classification known as the Enneagram, in which the Type 8 is the Boss-Top Dog-Challenger-Confronter. At their worst, they are what the Manosphere claims is an "alpha."
There are nine classifications, and none are better than any other. I am, for example, a Type 5, which is the Observer/Investigator/Sage.
When the Type 8 starts to disintegrate, they head toward Type 2 - the Helper/Giver...what they think is the "beta wimp."
This is their problem and no one else's. It is not universal for all men.
Since I am a Type 5, my area of disintegration is to head toward Type 7 - the Epicure/Enthusiast/Visionary/Dreamer. I have known this for a long time, because if I let myself go, all I would do is eat and drink and smoke and lie around and daydream and read and watch movies. Supposed at my best I'm a balance between Type 5 and Type 8...which I have never been able to achieve.
When Roissy and Rollo Tomassi and Vox Day are writing about "alphas" and "betas" they are writing about their problems, and are trying to convince you their problems are your problems.
You know something else? My area of integration is to head toward the Type 8 - the Boss-Top Dog-Challenger-Confronter. I also know this, which is why I know what Type 8s are like and how they're terrified of being wimps..."betas."
It's why it's so easy for me to see through them. For that matter, one of the strengths of the Type 5 is "I see though you."
The nine classifications of the Enneagram?
6. Devil's Advocate/Loyalist/Troubleshooter/Guardian
8. Boss/Top Dog/Challenger/Confronter
Again, none of them are any better than the other. Each has its own strengths and weaknesses.