Thursday, April 24, 2014

"Women Should Be Taught Not To Murder Their Babies"

I have for many years thought that liberals can't think, just imitate and memorize bad ideas.

I was once told by a woman not too long ago, "Men should be taught not to rape." I did not ask, but suspected she also believed in "rape culture." (I once mentioned to a goofy-brained liberal woman that the only "rape culture" that existed was among blacks, and that about 36,000 white women a year were sexually assaulted by blacks and 0-10 black women by sexually assaulted by white men. That was a fun time.)

So I decided to have some fun with this foolish woman. Here is what I said:

"Women should be taught not to murder their babies."

I knew what the response would be, and I got it:

"Abortion is none of your business!"

Me: "I didn't say abortion, did I?"

Here is where her brains froze, so I pressed on: "Ninety-eight percent of newborns who are murdered in their first week of life are murdered by their mothers."

I got the Denial of Reality that is one of the main characteristics of liberals

"I don't believe that!"

"That's because liberals are like the Cowardly Lion. If you say, 'I wish! I wish!' long and hard enough you think reality changes. If you don't believe what I said, Google it. You're not my kid and I didn't take you to raise. You can do it on your own. You're all grown up, aren't you?"

According to the Center for Disease Control: "Among homicides during the first week of life, 82.6 percent occurred on the day of birth, 9.2 percent on the second day, and 8.2 percent during the remainder of the week...infant homicide [is] probably under-reported."

There is more weirdness involved: "The second highest peak in risk for infant homicide occurs during the eighth week of life and may be due to a caregiver's reaction to an infant's persistent crying. Infant crying duration peaks at six to eight weeks of age."

Don't cry, babies! Your mother just might rub you out!

On a related note, when you look at the distilled wisdom of the human race - folk tales, you'll find children/young women who are the objects of attempted murder by women (in their case, unrelated woman). Take a look at "Hansel and Gretel" ..."Cinderella"..."Sleeping Beauty." In the last two stories, the cruelty was done out of envy.

Now why is it we never hear about any of this? We hear about how women are supposed to be underpaid compared to men (they're not), and this and that and ban bossy, but not a peep about what women do to their infants.

I have always considered women worse than men. Think the myths about Eve and Pandora.

Liberals would rather live in their silly fantasy worlds where they are innocent and self-righteous and everyone else is guilty and evil.

Men in the past never allowed women to vote, because they understood what they would do to society. That is, destroy it. Like annihilating the next generation.

Monday, April 21, 2014

80% Play and 20% Serious

“But when you're in front of an audience and you make them laugh at a new idea, you're guiding the whole being for the moment. No one is ever more him/herself than when they really laugh. Their defenses are down. It's very Zen-like, that moment. They are completely open, completely themselves when that message hits the brain and the laugh begins. That's when new ideas can be implanted. If a new idea slips in at that moment, it has a chance to grow.” ― George Carlin, Last Words

That's Pareto's 80/20 Law.

I tell people I'm 80% play and 20% serious (and that 20% can be very serious indeed).

I tell them the reason I don't take most things seriously is that they aren't serious things. Even if most people think they're serious, in reality they're not.

Let's put it this way: I once had a woman tell me, "You are a man on the outside and a little boy on the inside." I just laughed.

In point of fact, I try to base my life on dogs. What do dogs do? Eat, sleep - and play. As Henry Ward Beecher said, "The dog is the god of frolic."

I recently told a woman, "If you want to understand me, pretend I'm a pug."

I also recently told a woman, "When women are with me their lives always get better." She just laughed and said, "God, you're arrogant!" No, just confident and funny.

I do know enough about humor to know that it's based on taking two unrelated things and finding a connection between them. That's the Aha! moment. And it's also based to trying to see everything as new. (The same applies to creativity.)

If there is any downside, it's that people think I'm strange. I've been called "strange," "weird" and "crazy" more than once. I just smile. I consider such people to be Muggles.

When I got around in reading the Bible in my teens I was shocked at what Jesus did. Here was a guy who went to parties, who ate and drank. And what is at parties? Dancing and singing. I thought, I'll be darned. Here was a guy who partied - ate and drank and probably sang and danced. And he had a great sense of humor. Boy, did my church lie to me.

God save us from people who have no sense of humor.

"The Son of Man has come eating and drinking, and you say, 'Behold, a gluttonous man and a drunkard, a friend of tax collectors and sinners!' Yet wisdom is vindicated by all her children." - Luke 7.34

"Levi also gave a great entertainment at his house in honor of Jesus..." - Luke 5.29

Sunday, April 20, 2014

Why "Economics" is BS

As far as I'm concerned, most people can't think, even if they have high IQs, even if they have advanced degrees. Here's an example:

First, I am not arguing for or against the minimum wage. I know all the arguments pro and con. But the most ridiculous one, that is completely unhinged from reality, is that the minimum wage prevents the young from getting jobs so they can gain experience and knowledge and get a higher-paying job.

These days, that's a joke. Those jobs don't exist anymore. The idea of Jimmy Olsen, Cub Reporter, working his way up from the bottom, died a long time ago.

I've seen many people stuck at some fast food place, and that is as far as they are going to go. They don't "gain experience and knowledge" so they can get a better job. Those higher-paying jobs don't exist anymore. If these people think they are going to work their way up from flipping burgers to district manager, think again.

These days you have to get a college degree (most of which are worthless) or technical school (which isn't worthless) to get a good job. If you have a job as a security guard, exactly where are you going to go with it? Again, fast food worker? Janitor? Working in a nursing home?

My experience has been most jobs are not particularly skilled. I used to work for MBAs from Harvard and Yale. They were jokes. Their jobs were not "skilled." They belonged to the Old Boys' Club (and yes, it does exist). And if you don't belong to it, you're screwed. Either you're in with the In Crowd, or you're out and get little.

It's not what you know, it's who you know.

The median IQ in the U.S. is 100. That's means half the people in this country have IQs of 100 or less. They're not going to work their way up to anything.

And obviously, flooding the country with 85-to-89 IQ Third Worlders isn't going to help. They've going to stay at the bottom - forever.

My parents, who were high school dropouts (although they later got their GEDs) did just fine. He was a general contractor (he once told me, "I could not do today what I did then") and my mother worked as a night admitting clerk at the local ER. Today she'd have to be a nurse - these days, a four-year-degree, with a bunch of worthless classes such as algebra (I've seen women drop out of various programs because they could not pass classes they did not need).

I estimated my parents' IQs at 105 to 107. I shudder to think if I had been born today to parents without decent jobs, because court "economists" cheer exporting good jobs and importing criminal trash.

Now it's all degrees and certifications - you know, in lieu of all the "knowledge and experience" that's supposed to open all those "high-paying jobs" to you.

I used to walk my dog in a local park. Every morning there were the same 6-to-8 Hispanic kids sitting under a tree. They were 16 to 18 years old, and clearly dropouts. I thought, why not? What jobs await them with or without high school diplomas?

Nothing, that's what.

Saturday, April 19, 2014

My First-Aid Kit

This is what I have in my first-aid kit:

Marijuana. Doctors didn’t want marijuana made illegal, because it has so many medicinal uses. It is a pain-killer, a muscle relaxer (it was used for women giving birth), helps with insomnia, and increases appetite. That’s a lot of uses for one herb.

I once hurt my back so badly I couldn't sleep. I went to a friend's house and he gave me a piece the size of a pea. We smoked it, I went home, and by the time I got there, my back had loosened enough I fell asleep with no problems. I woke up the next morning and was fine.

Tea Tree Oil. It’s an antiseptic and promotes healing. One of my friends stepped on a nail. The doctor told him it wouldn’t heal and it wanted to ream it out. My friend declined. I had him put tea tree oil on it and it started to heal. The doctor told him, “I don’t know what you are doing, but keep doing it.” It healed completely with no scarring. I’ve seen people use it for toenail fungus and for gum disease.

Black Pepper. Believe it or not, but if you put black pepper on a cut it will stop bleeding.

Lavender Oil. Lavender oil is good for minor burns and promotes healing. It makes you smell good, too.

Clove oil. I once cracked a molar that had a large filling in it. Since it was in the evening, I couldn’t get to the dentist. I rubbed clove oil on the gum and the pain went away. Unfortunately, it only last half-an-hour before I had to reapply it, but it was bliss for that 30 minutes.

Peppermint/Ginger tea. This is a good one for digestive problems and an upset stomach.

Acupuncture pressure points. The main one, and it’s pretty much the only one I use, is located in the web between your thumb and first finger. You have to dig to find it, and when you do, it will hurt when you knead it. It’s pretty much a pain-killer. The first time I used it on a woman her headache and her cramps went away in about a minute.

I have found the above covers about 90% of medical problems that most people suffer from, that don’t require an ER visit – which these days costs about $500.

Friday, April 18, 2014

It's a Much Better Society When All the "Alphas" Are Dead

“...manipulated his power, wealth, and position in the entertainment industry to sexually abuse and exploit the underage Plaintiff through the use of drugs, alcohol, threats, and inducements which resulted in Plaintiff suffering catastrophic psychological and emotional injuries.” - Court documents about Bryan Singer

"...the state simply removed from the population via execution the most violent members of society. took them right out of the gene pool and largely stopped them from reproducing." - HBD Chick

"...the primate alpha male is a child abuser, a murderer and a rapist: he violates some of the most basic taboos of every human culture." -"Eddy"

"I have long suspected that early humans worked out that they'd be better off with without alphas and systematically massacred them." - "Eddy"

"If we have any genetic alphas, I would be inclined to look among the the psychopaths to find them." - "Eddy"

I pointed out before I don't believe in all this comic book Alpha/Beta nonsense. For one thing, no can define "Alpha." Everyone has their own definition, which means the concept is meaningless. The accepted definition is that of a insecure, weak-minded narcissist or psychopath, and the evidence is pretty conclusive these kinds of people were correctly killed in the past because they were so much trouble.

"Alpha: The alpha is the tall, good-looking guy who is the center of both male and female attention. The classic star of the football team who is dating the prettiest cheerleader. The successful business executive with the beautiful, stylish, blonde, size zero wife. All the women are attracted to him, while all the men want to be him, or at least be his friend. At a social gathering like a party, he's usually the loud, charismatic guy telling self-flattering stories to a group of attractive women who are listening with interest. However, alphas are only interested in women to the extent that they exist for the alpha's gratification, physical and psychological, they are actually more concerned with their overall group status."

That definition is almost the clinical description of a narcissist/psychopath.

I never use the word "Alpha," and if I had to define it, it's being the best you can be. That's the way the Greeks defined it over 2500 years ago: excellence in life leading to well-being.

Most politicians are psychopathic. In fact, the world appears to be run by psychopaths - because we don't kill them. After all, what can you do with the evil except kill them?

This article, which was written by Tex Arcane and is from his site The Vault, is about the exposure of the predatory homosexual/pederast/pedophile Bryan Singer (contrary to the media myth, homosexuals are not "gay": many of them are promiscuous, disease-ridden drug abusers who prefer 12-year-old boys.)

In this article Arcane speaks of drowning child molesters, and letting the child stand on them. This is revenge/justice after humiliation. What I have written about as Hubris followed by Nemesis. Hubris originally meant to humiliate someone (often in public) and often had a sexual connotation.

Nemesis/Revenge/justice is an attempt to replace shame with pride, and is an attempt to make the victim "whole" (which comes from the same word as "healthy.")

Nowadays we have such concepts as "therapy," which I suppose works in some cases, but I think the "Teutonics" had a better concept.

"What happens at Bryan Singer's house on the weekend"

"I figured out the biological game theory of all this a long time ago.

"It starts with basic sociopath. Then you figure in the low investment strategy of sex with children in terms of energy required to find and sustain relationships. There is a much better ratio of return for a person who simply is not as interested in love, closeness and mammalian family the way a real person would be. The child predator is pursuing a gigantic arc of efficiency that starts and begins with the fact their insides are a virtual vacuum in there.

"You also consider the reward to their personalities which essentially revolves around dominance, cruelty and inhuman lack of empathy. The child is the ideal victim and also represents the lowest risk in order to fulfill these wicked, innate impulses at the same time they gratify their sex drives. All things considered, being a child molester is secondary to the fact that deep in the root of their beings they were born monstrous, horribly twisted abominations. All these other behaviors tend to flow out of that in terms of the path of least resistance to their development in life. The child sex is just genetic expression for the person they were born as.

"Even as a good tree does not produce bad fruit, so a bad tree cannot produce good fruit.

"It is not that having sex with children is a 'sickness' that otherwise spoils what would be a healthy human being. They are in fact poisonous and toxic right down through their biology to the cellular level. If it doesn't express itself as dominance and humiliation of children with a sexual component it would most assuredly express itself in another fashion that would be just as bad. This is why child predators are always found associated with other things that don't seem related, including murder, torture, kidnapping, forgery and embezzling.

"The Teutonics in Europe knew there was not a cure for this and that is why they administered the only cure that works, which was drowning them in public while other men held them down, then permitting the child they had offended to walk out into the river and stand on their shoulders when they were dead. Over the course of thousands of years, this emerged from trial and error as the best way to handle these horrible, depraved bastards and to put them and their crimes behind you in the past so you could get on with your lives.

"If you compare the Teutonics with their matching roles of fathers in the Middle East, you can see the real gulf between the two peoples is and has been enormous for thousands upon thousands of years. After the ritual of drowning the child molester, all the people in the village would treat the boy or girl involved as though it had never happened and the girl would be assumed to be a chaste virgin on her wedding night. Nobody would speak of it again and the boy would be treated as no less a man when he came of age. Think of the Middle East where the girl is punished by stoning her to death in an open pit and even the man who did the deed is invited to throw a stone of his own at the young girl he has caught and deflowered by force. Compare this to all those tales you have heard of these brutal, heartless Viking barbarian peoples of Europe in the old days and then ask yourself which group of people would really have the deepest compassion and love of their own children and would show it in their actions. I would say that Christ was right - you really do know people by their fruits."

Thursday, April 17, 2014

Waking Up To Her Every Morning For The Rest Of Your Life

Blaming someone else for your problems - even when they are innocent - is the first defense people use. It's part and parcel of denial, which is refusing to see that the accused people are innocent. Denial is the result of self-deception, because you have to deceive yourself first before you deny something to someone else.

For years I've been hearing that men "don't want to commit." I find that more than a little odd since two-thirds of all divorces are initiated by women. Most of them happen in middle-age.

The only thing I can conclude from these statistics is that while women want to get married, they don't want to stay married. Then of course when they want to get divorced, they have to blame it on the man. Then they have to deceive themselves it's not their fault. Then they deny it's their fault to other people.

In other words, women are generally the first to demand commitment and then generally the first to try to get out of it.

The excuses and rationalizations women use are legion and I don't have to recount them here. But what it ultimately comes down to is that they are bored with being married, although they use such words as "trapped."

But when they get divorced they'll still want the kids and to get money from their ex-husbands.

Society in the past reduced these problems to the minimum. First, it was hard to get a divorce. Second, no-fault divorce did not exist. Third, the children were almost always given to the father. Returning to these things would be a good thing.

Oh, I forgot - as far as I'm concerned women who have children out of wedlock should have their babies taken from them. In the past such women who got pregnant were sent away to have the child, which was then adopted by a married couple or else sent to an orphanage (and almost all orphanages weren't bad places - I've known people raised in them).

By the way, the word "bastard" means a fatherless boy and a cruel, heartless man. I'm not even going to bother to explain the relationship.

I have for a long time thought women expect too much from marriage. The cliche' is that women seek Mr. Perfect (who does not exist) while if men find a woman who is 80% of what they want they are in Heaven.

Cliches' wouldn't be around unless there was some truth to them. So the idea that women have too high of standards has been around for a long time, otherwise there would not exists such stories as the Brothers Grimm tale, "King Roughbeard," which is about a princess who rejects all her suitors because none of them are good enough for her.

The only cure for her problem is to be humbled, and that is exactly what happens.

Men should pay a lot more attention to whom they marry. For that matter, women should pay a lot more attention, too. Her parents might want to explain there are no Mr. Perfects (and that she's not perfect, either) and explain the wisdom of the "King Roughbeard" tale to her.

Parents might want to also explain that many women are more ruled by their feelings than men, which means that many of them are not exactly rational (I am reminded of that scene in As Good as it Gets when Jack Nicholson's character says he understands women by thinking of a man and "taking away reason and accountability").

In fact, it's an excellent idea to interview a prospective mate. This is not as aside, but quite relevant: it's been found that when a man and a women have similar views on politics and pornography they stand a better chance of staying together. Having similar religious beliefs wouldn't hurt, either.

As cruel as it sounds, I don't think being in love justifies getting married. I knew a man who thought he had found the woman for him until an older man asked him if he'd be glad to wake up next to her every morning for the rest of his life. He suddenly realized he wasn't in love that much.

And of course love can, and does, die. Otherwise, there wouldn't be as much divorce as there is. And, of course, you have a duty to your future unborn children to make sure your mate would be a good father or mother.

I'll tell you one big red flag: she won't take your last name. That's the first red flag she's been brainwashed by 40 plus years of leftist/lesbian propaganda.

Wednesday, April 16, 2014

"20 Identifiable Traits of a Female Narcissist"

This was written by Susan Walsh and is from her site. I've heard her referred to as "Aunt Giggles" yet she does have many good articles about relationships on her site - something that is missing in the more popular sites in the "Manosphere."

I have run across narcissistic women. They do overrate their attractiveness. Even the skanks do it. They overdress. They imagine criticism when it's not there. They become hysterical when they think they are devalued and will try to destroy that person's life. They're fives who think they deserve 10s when it comes to men. They blame all their problems on other people, especially men. When they become middle-aged their lives collapse.

I've seen several women in their late 50s who put on their make-up with a paint roller and spent a lot of money on clothes. The worst I ever saw was a woman in her middle 70s who wore a miniskirt and go-go boots, like it was 1966. And this was more like 2007 (she also knifed her wealthy husband to death, put a nick on her arm, hid in the closet - and somehow got away with it).

People sometimes try to tell me narcissists have high "self-esteem." No, they don't. They have a fake, superficial charm and self-confidence covering up the gaping void that is their Self. The same applies to those who think they understand the "Dark Triad." Fake, superficial charm and self-confidence disguising crushing feelings of security and humiliation. That's what it really is.

"In the discussion following a recent post about one woman’s iPhone infidelity, Mike asked:

"Just curious, you had the post on this is what good guys look like and red flags for bad guys, I’d be interested if you have a comparable list on how to identify the red flags for bad girls who are likely to behave like the woman here.

"That’s a fair question, and as I’ve been thinking it over I’ve found that applying the same standards women use doesn’t really work. Women are attracted to men for a whole host of reasons, and struggle with the question of how to read a guy’s intentions. We don’t want to have sex too soon and lose his respect, but we don’t want to hold out so long that he seeks satisfaction elsewhere. For women, it’s critical to observe a man’s character over a period of time to assess his willingness to enter into a committed relationship.

"Character is very important in women too, but men are primarily drawn to women via physical attraction. Their interest in a woman is immediate upon seeing her, and she may wield considerable power over him based on her sexual attractiveness. Women are generally willing to enter relationships, but men worry about finding out down the road that a woman was not who he thought. How can a man verify a woman’s character quickly, so that he doesn’t get caught up in a relationship with a woman who is unlikely to be monogamous over the long-term?

"If a man avoids one thing in a woman, he will increase his chances of long-term happiness a thousand fold:

Female Narcissism

"It used to be that the word narcissist wasn’t thrown around lightly. We saved it for sociopaths and historical figures like Machiavelli and Napoleon. Female examples were rare, and generally found in fiction: Rebecca of the Daphne Du Maurier novel, Gloria Swanson as Norma Desmond in the 1950 film Sunset Boulevard. In its worst form it is a diagnosable personality disorder (NPD), and historically, 75% of those diagnosed with NPD have been male. However, researchers who have recently studied narcissistic personality traits in the American population say it’s an epidemic, increasing just as fast as obesity since the 1980s, and that much of the growth comes from women. Twenge and Campbell, authors of The Narcissism Epidemic, studied 37,000 college students (2006) in an effort to understand modern levels of self-involvement:

"1. In 1982, just 15% of college kids scored high on the Narcissistic Personality Inventory, but that number has risen to 25%, largely due to a greater number of narcissistic women.

"2. In the 1950s, just 12% of respondents agreed with the statement, 'I am an important person.' By the 1980s, 80% felt special.

"3. In 1967, 45% of American students felt that 'Being well off is an important life goal.' By 2004, 74% agreed with that statement.

"4. Nearly 10% of 20-somethings are thought to have NPD, and it’s estimated that 26% of people now in their twenties will have developed NPD by the age of 65.

Women narcissists often are diagnosed with the subset Histrionic Personality Disorder:

"A personality disorder characterized by a pattern of excessive emotionality and attention-seeking, including an excessive need for approval and inappropriate seductiveness, usually beginning in early adulthood. These individuals are lively, dramatic, enthusiastic, and flirtatious.

"They may be inappropriately sexually provocative, express strong emotions with an impressionistic style, and be easily influenced by others. Associated features may include egocentrism, self-indulgence, continuous longing for appreciation, feelings that are easily hurt, and persistent manipulative behavior to achieve their own needs.

"Female narcissists focus more heavily on physical appearance that male narcissists. They often overestimate their own attractiveness, and focus on displaying or flaunting physical attributes. Scientists think there may be a link between narcissism and anorexia or bulimia.

"In summary, female narcissists see their lives as a running feature film with them in the lead, receiving accolades at all times. Women narcissists in their 30s and 40s who are unhappily single will generally blame their unpartnered state on being too independent, feisty, strong-minded, intimidating and intelligent for most men. They have little self-awareness.

"What Caused the Narcissism Epidemic?

"There is far less social pressure to demonstrate character than in past generations. Daughters who once would have been disciplined for spoiled behavior are now allowed to dictate the dinner menu, or veto a family move.

"The self-esteem movement, which was intended to create happy, friendly children, produced a generation of kids who filled their rooms with 'Participant' trophies and congratulated themselves for showing up. In fact, Twenge and Campbell found that 30% of students felt that they should get good grades just for attending class. Indeed, grade inflation at the country’s best universities is a serious problem, and Cornell West was rumored to have regularly given all A’s in his course at Harvard.

"During the 1960s, the core American value of individualism began to morph into self-admiration. The human potential movement stressed introspection and self-improvement, intending self-actualization. However, the concept of self-esteem became a shortcut to the hard work of real personal change.

"During the 70S and 80s, Americans became obsessed with celebrity culture, and eating disorders skyrocketed.

"Today, social media breeds narcissism by constantly encouraging women to post flattering photos, and create online profiles that stress their uniqueness. Facebook, Twitter and YouTube all require self-promotion, bringing out the narcissist in us. Reality shows promote the most ordinary, unimpressive people as special, and we follow their dysfunctional lives with fascination.

"As Twenge and Campbell point out, when I was growing up, it was normal to hear the following kinds of remarks from parents:

"'Who do you think you are?'

"'Just wait until your father gets home!'

"'Because I said so, that’s why.'

"My generation became parents and flipped the script. We justified our decisions at great length when our children disagreed with us. We gave up our own interests to spend hours building Lego structures with our kids or ensuring that our little soccer player got all the development she would need to get recruited to play in college someday. Psychologists used to believe that narcissism resulted from emotional damage in childhood at the hands of cold, neglectful parents. However, the data has never supported that theory, and now it’s widely accepted that narcissism grows from inflated feedback. American parents want super-achieving children, and we’ve insisted we have them, even if we have to create the fiction. Instead, we’ve created a generation of Special Little Snowflakes.

"Hooking Up And Narcissism

"Twenge and Campbell believe that hookups, FWBs and other no-strings relationships are a manifestation of the narcissism epidemic. Hooking up is considered a selfish act, in that it is about self-satisfaction rather than generosity toward another person. When couples do commit to a relationship, they often continue to wrestle for the upper hand, and relationships are often characterized by lack of emotion, antisocial attitudes and an emphasis on physical appearance. In addition, parents pressure their children to achieve, claiming that 'love can wait.' That adds to the appeal, at least in the short-term, of no-strings sexual relationships.

“'It changes what is normal behavior in dating,' says Campbell, referring to the hookup culture among youth that has left modern-day parents wringing their hands. According to Campbell and Twenge, the rise of the hookup culture and narcissism rates had a convergent evolution—a link they see as significant. “'One of the hallmarks of a narcissist is short-term relationships that don’t require a lot of emotional investment,' says Campbell. Adds Twenge: 'The current trend right now, especially among younger people, is that ‘I’m going to focus on myself, not on forging an emotionally close relationship.’

"Hannah Seligson’s article Do Narcissists Have Better Sex? for The Daily Beast makes another observation:

"In fact, narcissism, even in small doses, has shifted courtship into a high-stakes relationship culture. Now that people think more highly of themselves, expectations of what a relationship should be like have skyrocketed into the realm of superlatives. Twentysomethings not only expect to waltz into high-level career positions right out of college, they also expect partners who have the moral fortitude of Nelson Mandela, the comedic timing of Stephen Colbert, the abs of Hugh Jackman, and the hair of Patrick Dempsey.

"How to Identify a Female Narcissist

Physical Appearance

"She dresses provocatively, flaunting sexually suggestive body parts.

"She focuses attention on makeup and hair, even for the most mundane tasks or events.

"She is overly confident about her looks. Research shows that narcissists are no more attractive than other people, but they believe they are much better looking than other women.

"She places high value on brand names, and feels entitled to wear 'the best.' She frequently purchases new clothing, and does not distinguish between wants and needs.

"She is more likely to have plastic surgery, most commonly breast augmentation.

"She enjoys being photographed, and often asks others to snap her picture. She enthusiastically shares the best pics of herself on Facebook or other social media sites. She will sometimes invest in a professional photographer for a portrait that she uses on Facebook or for online dating.


"She insists on being the center of attention, and is often the most charming person in the room. Narcissists are very outgoing and excel at marketing themselves.

"She often seeks favorable treatment, and automatic compliance. She believes that she is special, and that she deserves fame, fortune, success and happiness.

"She is highly materialistic.

"She is prone to envy, though she presents as supremely confident. She seeks opportunities to undermine others, and enjoys sharing confidences about how the two of you are better than others.

"She is convinced that others are envious and jealous of her, and often uses this excuse for her lack of real, intimate friendships. When her friends enjoy successes of their own, she finds ways to punish them by downplaying their achievements.

"She lacks empathy, and even common courtesy at times. She puts others down, including you. She does not hesitate to exploit others.

"She is very competitive.

"She believes that she is intellectually superior to her peers.

"She blames others for problems. Narcissists don’t believe that they make mistakes, and lack the ability to process shame.

"She displays a haughty attitude when she lets her guard down or is confronted. She will act impatient, arrogant and condescending. She will often excuse her own shortcomings by claiming that others are pressuring her or expecting too much of her.

"She is dishonest and often lies to get what she wants. She will never admit this.

"She is 'psycho:' She engages in risky behaviors, has an addictive personality, and is prone to aggressive behavior when rejected. (Note: This is most common with Histrionic Personality Disorder.)

"She is unpredictable in her moods and actions. You have trouble figuring out what she wants and where you stand.

"She is capable of short-term regret, and will apologize profusely if backed into a corner. However, she will quickly rationalize her behavior and return to narcissistic patterns.

"A woman doesn’t need to have all 20 of these traits to make a lousy relationship partner. If you can check off even a few of these characteristics, you should head for the hills at 60 mph. The six traits related to physical appearance should be apparent immediately, or within a short time of meeting.

"Narcissistic personality traits can be difficult to detect at first. Narcissists always make a strong showing right out of the gate, and it takes time for them to reveal their negative qualities. They will only do so when feeling threatened or that they are not receiving 'their due' in some way.

"Based on the women of all ages I have known in my life, I think 10% is an accurate estimate of the number of narcissists in the female population. That’s a lot of women who could make you miserable if you’re not careful.

"Please don’t date one. I beg you not to fall in love with one. And never, ever marry one."