I have suggested before that if men are trying to "Alphas" it's not because the want to be, but it's due to some women's manipulation. That is, they think if women like confident, funny men, some men try to be those things (but misname it "Alpha" then pile on a bunch of garbage with it - like the name itself).
But still, it's in response to women's unconscious manipulations.
Scott Adams, he of Dilbert fame, has a cartoon showing Dilbert putting his head in a drawer and slamming it on his head, in response to a woman's claim that he had to do it to date her. Her last words in the panel? "And they're supposed to be on the ones who run the world."
If women only dated men who dressed like court jesters, men would start dressing like court jesters.
In the past, one of the things that a man is supposed to be is one who does not change his behavior in response to what women want.
I've mentioned this before, but I know guys who have slept with over a hundred women. Not surprisingly they were wimps and by middle age, were desperately dependent on one women. They didn't love them; they were just desperately, anxiously dependent on them.
One of the reasons why is because they never their own man. They did what women wanted so they could get laid a lot. And some never understand that.