"The cheaper the punk the gaudier the patter."
That line was written by Dashiell Hammett, who had been an operative for Pinkerton, back when it was a real investigative firm and not a security guard company, the way it is today.
It was spoken by his character Sam Spade (Humphrey Bogart) in the movie, The Maltese Falcon.
Hammett had also been in WWI.
I have found what he wrote to be true.
When I was 12 or 13 years old, I was in the bathroom at school when four or five boys came into the bathroom. One had a huge grin on his face.
One of the other boys was a physical catastrophe named Greg. Greg was one of those odd kids who walked hunched over. He had almost grey skin and dishwater brown hair. He also wore these thick glasses that magnified his eyes and made them fuzzy-looking. Even without all that he would have never been good-looking.
The kid with the cocky grin started fighting with Greg, and it was clear he had been picking on Greg because of what he looked like, and thought he could easily beat him up.
Things didn't go as planned.
The fight lasted maybe ten seconds. Greg got this kid in a headlock and did something I had never considered.
He tried to rip the kid's face off over the top of his head.
The cocky kid utterly collapsed and began begging Greg to leave him alone. Fight over.
I was very impressed.
Later I saw another fight in the boy's bathroom in the gym.
There was a bully named Don, who apparently was mouthing off to a guy who was about 5'2" named Phil.
Phil, however, was an athlete and a wrestler.
Again, the fight lasted about ten seconds, and Don began begging Phil to stop hitting him. "Okay, okay, you kicked my ass! Stop hitting me!" His voice was trembling.
He was a complete fucking coward.
I have seen such things happen later. I have never seen an exception to the observation, "All bullies are cowards."
It's why I don't believe in all that nonsense about "insane confidence," such as what "Roissy" writes, and why I consider him a big-mouth pussy who's never been in fight.
Again, when I was about 12 or 13 I read a story called "Call Him Lord," by Gordon R. Dickson.
It was about a teenager (maybe 19) who was supposed to be the Emperor of the Galaxy, and who ended up being killed by his bodyguard. When the boy's father asked what happened (the boy was a bully), the bodyguard answered,
"Lord, he was a coward."
I remember thinking, "I'm not the only one who has noticed this."
This Emperor-to-be was rather charming on top but a piece of shit underneath. In other word, a narcissist. I've seen this before in real life, which is why charm and charisma mean nothing to me.
This "insane confidence" is a con and a danger promoted by weaklings.
When I was 21 I was playing pool downstairs in a nightclub now torn down.
One guy came downstairs, I looked at him, and my spidey-sense just went crazy. It turned out I was right, because he pulled out a .38 and started shooting at a guy down there.
The supposed shootee pulled his pistol and returned fire.
By that time I was under the pool table, wondering if I was going to catch a stray one.
The shooter got plugged but good and later died at the hospital, in front of my mother (who was an ER night admitting clerk), who told me he was crying, "I'm going to die! I'm going to die!" And he did.
The shootee had a .38 slug go in one temple, spin around the back of his skull, and end up in the other temple. He lived (he also later worked briefly for my father).
Turned out the shooter had been paid $300 to kill the other guy, and apparently was so "insanely confident" he thought he could do it, instead of getting killed himself.
Because of what I have experienced (including watching "insanely confident" men throw out of nightclubs by more than one bouncer) I have no respect at all for fools who give very bad advice (because they have no experience with these things) to the naive and inexperienced.
What we're dealing with here are examples of the Four Cardinal Virtues: Courage/Confidence/Bravery/Fortitude, Prudence (which is the most important), Justice, Temperance. When you lack one you lack them all.
That's why those guys I saw beaten up and shot acted as they did. They certainly lacked Prudence and Justice (picking on people is not just) and lacking those, they also lacked Courage (theirs was that fake "courage" on top covering their piece-of-shit true self) - "the cheaper the punk, the gaudier the patter."
There are those in the Manosphere who are obsessed with "confidence." It's because they lack it. Lacking confidence, they lack courage, prudence and justice.
They don't know this, though, until things get just a little bit tough.
I occasionally gets posters at this site engaging in some pretty significant abuse of me, defending such frauds as Roissy and Vox Day.
Of course, they have no idea they are cowards, and if confronted in real life they would collapse and apologize profusely.
I've seen it before...more than once.