About 15 years ago I started encountering the phrase, "failure to launch." It referred to a young person who didn't "launch" into adult life.
I've met more than one of these people. Some I know are 35 years old, with eight-year-old children, who spend their time playing video games on the TV. They don't have real jobs, just some part-time ones, sometimes at fast-food places or temporary agencies. It's almost as if all they want to do is play. Were they not allowed to play as kids?
I know one who did have a good job driving a highway rig, but gave it up after eight months because the job so "so lonely I couldn't stand it." I actually understand that. He wasn't cut out to be a long-haul driver.
What gives here, and why do I see so many of these types?
I see meaning, importance and community as being the most important things in life. If you don't have those, you've got nothing.
Most of the failure to launch adults I know come from broken families, with absent fathers and abusive mothers - and the mothers didn't even know they were abusive. They very rarely do.
One 35-year-old I know, who has a nine-year-old boy, told me his mother hit him with "anything she could get hold of." His father wasn't around because of divorce, and the idiot mother got custody. He works at a fast-food place. He lives with a family whose daughter he went to high school with (who still lives with her family), and sees her as his sister. He told me that. He sees her as part of the family he never had.
If you want to destroy people - destroy society - then start with the families. That's been noticed for thousands of years.
Forty years ago this kid would have been middle-class, since there were many middle-class jobs available. Not anymore.
I estimate his IQ as about 107.
The lower-classes are lower-class because they have lower-class mentalities. I was raised with these people, God knows. Not much can be done about them, except they, too, need high-paying jobs. It does help.
What has happened today is that men have become marginalized. Not all, of course, but a lot.
It's hard even being middle-class anymore. I know a man who wanted to be a law professor, but when he talked to the dean was informed he didn't stand a chance "because you're white." Incompetent women and minorities are by law given preference (Affirmative Action means "white men need not apply") - and this isn't the first time I've seen this. It won't be the last, either.
Most men get their meaning, importance and community out of their jobs and families - what the loon Freud actually got right when he referred to the importance of "love and work."
Now work has been taken from most men and given to those who do little and created nothing, and love and family are circling the drain like dead bugs. These things have always been under attack by certain people - and for the past 40 years or so these attacks have been enshrined in law.
Does society - and women - understand what's going on with the rejection and marginalization of men? Do women really think they can maintain and run advanced civilization - or any civilization at all? You have to look no further than Hillary Clinton, who's done nothing but ride on her husband's coattails.
I'm going to quote Carl Jung again - women are biologically indispensable because they make babies, and men are culturally indispensable because they make everything else.
Without men, no civilization, no technology - nothing, just grass huts.
I've pointed out before leftism is not about equality but instead about "the murder of the Father," which means men. Out of envy more than anything else. That accounts for the marginalization and rejection of men - to bring them down, to crush them, to destroy them, even if the enviers destroy themselves.
God is also the Father, which leftism, being atheist and materialistic, wants to destroy and replace with the worship of the State, whichs means Man. Or, today, perhaps Woman. Either way, it's a catastrophe.
But then, we always have catastrophes. I don't particularly mind that. You have to not let it bother you. It doesn't do any good to get emotionally involved in these things. Try to fix them, yes, but not get upset at them.