Thursday, April 3, 2014

Attracted to Crazy

Even as a kid I noticed what I thought was something very odd: it was women who were generally more cruel to boys than men. They didn't even know they were cruel (I see the same thing among female teachers).

The worst families, and the most damaged kids, came out of a situation with a weak or absent father and a cruel mother. Later I found this was ancient wisdom embodied in folk tales ("fairy tales").

There is an old observation that women often are attracted to men who remind them of their fathers, and men, of their mothers. There is some truth to that. If they have a bad relationship with the opposite sex parent, one theory is that they are attracted to then in order to repeat the relationship and "fix" it.

This means the more single mothers we have (who are automatically abusers simply because they are single mothers), the more screwed-ups boys we are going to have, ones who cannot have successful relationships with women...along with other problems, such as "failure to launch."

In other words, it takes two parents to create non-crazy kids.

I suspect many of the more rapid believers in the Manosphere were raised by single mothers and absent/weak fathers. Without fathers as models, mentors and mirrors, they grow up lacking discernment, the lack of which is a major flaw of many women. Without that discernment, they cannot tell good concepts from bad, which is why they cannot discern that narcissistic frauds such as the short, bald "I created 'Sigma' for my Special Snowflake self" "Vox Day" and the "Dependent on women so I go from one long-term relationship to another like my feminist counterpart Gloria Steinem" "Roissy" are mixing good advice with horrible. Their supporters defend them with the fervor of religious fanatics.

This article is from the site A Shrink4Men and was written by Dr Tara J. Palmatier.


"Many men are able to avoid becoming involved with unstable, entitled, abusive, empathically challenged, manipulative, emotionally immature, personality disordered and/or sociopathic women. Perhaps they had loving parents who taught the to respect and love themselves enough not to be tempted by the siren song of Crazy.

"However, there are many men who are less fortunate. They have to learn the hard way how to detect, avoid and break themselves of their attraction to Crazy. Some of these men were parented and abused by their mothers.

"They were groomed from an early age to think abuse is normal. Some were raised by loving, well-intentioned parents who taught them that men are honor bound to protect women, treat all women with respect (no matter how unwarranted) and to make women happy no matter the personal cost."

3 comments:

Glen Filthie said...

Whadday talkin' about Bob? If you are going to screw crazy women Vox and his gang are EXACTLY the guys you wanna heed. They are specialists in the modern trench warfare of the battle of the sexes. In fact, if I were involved with a crazy woman - I would listen to the PUA's before I would take advice from you. No offense meant, either!

From my lofty seat up here in the peanut gallery I see you guys as two different but equally valid authorities on the subject of women. You rightfully advocate avoidance and prevention of relationships with the Modern Bitch. Dare devils like Roissy and the PUA's will bed them, ride them hard, and throw them away like the trash they are...maybe not realizing that if you play in garbage, you eventually get some on ya...but hell, it works for them I suppose.

Good, traditional women that can respect the same in good men are not all that common, and not all men are as lucky as we are.

Bob Wallace said...

What will happen with some of those guys who follow Vox/Roissy is that they will fall in love with the wrong woman, who will discard them, then they'll asking Tara Palmetier, "What the hell happened? It wasn't supposed to be like this!"

Then they'll think, "That dumbass Wallace knew what he was talking about!"

Bob Wallace said...

Remember that song by Elvin Bishop?

I must have been through about a million girls
I'd love 'em and I'd leave 'em alone
I didn't care how much they cried, no sir
Their tears left me cold as a stone

But then I fooled around and fell in love
I fooled around and fell in love.

That's why I call them the Lost Boys of the Manosphere.