The Lost Boys of the Manosphere

I have been reading the Manosphere for about the last six months. Before then I had never heard of it. But there is nothing in it that hasn't been covered hundreds if not thousands of years ago.

The Manosphere is in some ways a needed corrective to the destructive influence of leftist/lesbian feminism, which, being enforced by law, has been immensely destructive to society and the relationships between men and women.

One of the things feminism has done is damage and sometimes destroy the traditional concepts of masculinity. Since leftists believe there is no human nature, and that people are plastic, they think they can remold men’s characters and in effect make them more like women. Oftentimes this involves the use of drugs such as Ritalin.

This attempt to change men's inherent characters is not only nonsense; it’s dangerous nonsense. As the late Erik von Kuehnelt-Leddihn noted, “Leftists don’t merely misunderstand human nature; they don’t understand it at all.”

Since men are responsible for the creation of civilization, the attempt to destroy men is in fact the attempt to destroy civilization. As Camille Paglia noted, without men women would still be living in grass huts.

Unfortunately, many young men have lost the idea of what it means to be a man. So they’ve been looking to the Manosphere for ideas.

People learn by imitation. I’d never realized that until years ago when I read Thomas Jefferson and he pointed out that people only learn by imitating other people. Unfortunately this imitation can be for good or bad.

People not only learn by imitation, they look to leaders to teach them. Role models and mentors, in a nutshell. Again, unfortunately, mentors can be good or bad.

One of the more foolish concepts in the Manosphere is the concept of the “Alpha.” No one can agree exactly on what an Alpha is, but they’re generally supposed to be good-looking guys with lots of money who get all the women. They are supposed to be immune to what women say and are predatory toward them so they can pump ‘n’ dump ‘em.

I’ve had guys quote to me the exact definitions of an Alpha, a Beta, a Delta, a Gamma, a Sigma and an Omega. Those guys are particularly lost.

Apparently there are younger guys reading the Manosphere who think, “Well, if I imitate what Alphas are supposed to be then I’ll become an Alpha instead of being the Gamma or Delta I really am.” Good luck with that.

The idea of the Alpha I listed above is the classic definition of a narcissist or at worst a psychopath. Such people have no conscience or empathy.

Narcissists appear to be confident and unconcerned with what others think. In reality they are using those traits to cover up their feelings of inferiority and feelings of humiliation. That’s what a narcissist Alpha really is: a fake confidence on top covering up feelings of shame.

I once watched an Alpha on TV claim he’d had sex with about 130 women. This guy clearly has no concern for the feelings of these women. He is predatory and uses them. He had no empathy or compassion toward them. To him they are just things for him to use.

The original term to define these “Alphas” is a cad. My experience with promiscuous exploitative cads is that all of them are cowards.

As I’ve written before these Alphas end up ruining their lives by middle-age. I’ve seen it. And younger men think these are the men they want to emulate? And these are the kinds of men the leaders in the Manosphere say are the ideals who should be imitated? That is the best definition of a fool that I have seen in a long time.

These Gammas and Deltas are humiliated by what they are so they try to cover their feelings of humiliation and inferiority by pretending they are Alphas or Sigmas. It ain’t gonna work.

The traditional definition of a man in the West (I am unconcerned with what a man is supposed to be in non-Western cultures) is that of the chivalrous man.

Chivalry evolved from Christianity and is based on the better warrior virtues. It was based on defending the weak and helpless, including using violence if necessary, and being noble and honorable. It was the code that knights were ideally supposed to use.

The code of chivalry is the exact opposite of what an Alpha is supposed to be, according to many bloggers. A narcissist or a psychopath is not something you want to be.

The worst of psychopaths are particularly gruesome. All serial killers are psychopaths and they are so utterly lacking in a conscience that some them are cannibals and necrophiliacs. Think Ted Bundy and Jeffrey Dahmer.

I have never seen anyone in the Manosphere make the connection between what an Alpha is supposed to be and the fact they are narcissists and sometimes psychopaths. I have seen a few make the connection that Alphas are cads and cowards. I have also seen a few make the connection between chivalry and masculinity.

I've also seen some who don't understand the concept of chivalry and apply their misunderstandings to their Manosphere beliefs.

I consider the modern concepts of Alpha, Beta, etc., to to basically ridiculous. These concepts were covered several hundred if not several thousand years ago.

The original concept of a chivalrous man was an armed knight willing to do violence to protect the weak, helpless and powerless. They were noble, honorable and self-sacrificing. Is that not both Alpha and Beta traits combined?

On one of the more popular Manosphere blogs that idealizes the narcissist Alpha there was posted a picture of Prince Harry with an adoring beautiful woman (who I suspected was supremely stupid) whispering in his ear. He had his chin in his hand.

The caption was “The Alpha Male Look” with the text under the picture reading, "If you can adopt this posture in your dealings with women, you will alter their perception of you in the direction of presuming your sexy alphaness." Really? An effete degenerate aristocrat who's never had a job in his life and never will is an Alpha to be imitated? I had this image of a bunch of foolish guys sitting in a bar with his chins in their hands and thinking, “Where’s the babes? I’m imitating an Alpha!”

The degenerate behavior of aristocrats has been noticed for thousands of years. There are many jokes about the perversions of them. In fact, one of the reason the Constitution forbids titles of nobility is because the Founding Fathers were well aware of what aristocrats were.

Why do so many people fall for dubious concepts? They seek meaning and importance and community in their lives. Security. They seek to be part of a group that agrees with them. They seek leaders who know have confidence and know what's going on.

I don’t know how this Alpha/Beta/Delta/Gamma/Omega nonsense got started. But I do know it’s a detour from ancient wisdom and those who follow it are confused in the first place and just might end up even more confused. In some cases - far too many - they will end up confused.

The problem, ultimately, with these wannabe Gamers/PUAs, is that they're terrified they're wimps.